Flirting really is an art. Some women are very good at flirting and it just comes natural. Other women struggle with this and get all nervous and it feels rehearsed or fake. Before I share these three super charges flirting tips for women, I would like to talk a bit about flirting in general. You have your blatant flirts and you have those that flirt subtlety and convey mystery. The first is very common and is effective for landing you right in the sack with a man. The second one, entices him to want to know more about you and is far more effective is you are seeking more than a romp in the hay. If you want a night of steamy passion only, just slide you hand on his upper thigh and be done with it.
Flirting tips for women – they get you all the way!
If you want to be more like that woman that he describes as “there is just something about her”, you might want to learn how to flirt with men in a more subtle manner. If a man has approached you, first you must assume he is interested. Your job is to be able to flirt in a way that will heighten his interest. Many haven’t perfected how to flirt with men and when approached go overboard and end up acting as if they are holding a sign that says “pick me”. If you have the attitude that every man that approaches you is interested, you come from a place of confidence and it will show in your flirting.
Now I assume you know the flirting basics such as smiling, laughing and open body language. There is also the preening. If you play with your hair for example, men know this is flirting. The way you tilt your head can also be very flirtatious. These are non verbal flirting techniques. I could probably come up with tons of those, but for now, I am going to share with you 3 super charged flirting tips for women like you. Women that want to master this art.
3 Flirting Tips for Women
1. Use his name. Sounds simple doesn’t it? It is very simple and it is very powerful. I am sure you have heard that there is no sweeter sound than the sound of one’s own name. It’s true 100%. Now you don’t want to use it in every sentence. That would be overkill. Once or twice is effective. So that being said, if you just met him, make a mental note of his name. If you already know his name and he walks up to you or calls you on the phone, your first words should be something simple like “Well hello John”, with a smile of course. Using his name personalizes the interaction. It really does make him feel more special. Also if you are talking on the phone, do smile while doing so, it’s proven to be far more effective.
2. Flirting tip for women number two I learned from Nick Savoy in his book, It’s Your Move: How to Play the Game and Win the Man You Want. This one is just the bomb in my opinion. He calls it the wordless eye contact seduction stare. Here is how it is done. You are out somewhere and you are having a conversation and he asks you a question like “Where are you from?”. Before you answer, make eye contact with a slight smile or neutral expression and hold it for a couple seconds. Now reach for your drink, don’t break eye contact, and just take a slow sip. No extra slurping or licking please. Then just lower you drink, still holding eye contact and give him a simple answer, in this case I would just say “Columbia SC”.
3. Flirting Tip for Women number 3, get into his personal space, briefly! I say briefly because you don’t want to be obvious. When you get into someones personal space, by just a few inches even, it can disarm them. Once disarmed, move back out again. You can do this by leaning in to answer a question or tell him something. If you are standing, place your weight on one foot. To have both feet on the ground conveys resistance with your body language. So if you are standing and he says something funny, lean into his personal space, laugh, tilt the head and touch his upper arm or sleeve.
These are just a few of many many flirting tips for women. Practice makes perfect! At first it may feel awkward, but keep on trying. It will become second nature and you can look just like a natural flirt in time. Flirting is fun and it’s the key way to get a man’s attention. Mimi Tanner wrote an entire book on the subject called The Secrets of Flirting with Men!