Guest Blog Post by Betty Norton. Betty is a freelance writer from Seattle, WA.
So you want to keep a man interested in bed. It’s an ugly little fact that a huge number of relationships will at some point suffer through a period of boredom in bed. Even the happiest of couples, in long-term, committed relationships, sometimes have lulls between the sheets! The good news is, it’s completely normal. It’s human nature to grow bored with repetitive activity, and for sexually active couples, that’s just what sex can become without the proper attention and adjustments.
Here’s how to keep a man interested in bed.
More good news is that the solution can be fairly simple to keep a man interested in bed! Generally speaking, if you’ve been happy in bed with your partner before, you can be happy again. So here are 5 helpful tips to keep a man interested in bed, and keeping your sex life exciting and engaging.
1. Get Out Of Bed!
Think back to some of your earliest sexual fantasies; thoughts that drove you crazy as a teenager. Did they all take place conventionally in a bed? Probably not! So, if your relationship has reached a point at which you only have sex in bed, change it up! Sex elsewhere in the house, outside (so long as it’s private), etc. can be incredibly invigorating. iDiva has a few location tips to help get you started.
2. Try Some Role Play
This can be a bit uncomfortable for couples just starting out, but so long as it’s taken lightly it’s great fun. Playing out characters and fantasies tests your imagination and puts a new spin on your sex life that can make things exciting, and even rekindle your general arousal for one another.
3. Pick Up Some Toys
This is one of the most exciting adjustments you can make to a relationship. Adam and Eve is a helpful place to start, as they not only provide the actual toys, but also extensive user reviews and toy use guides that can help you getting started. Even the simplest of toys – a blindfold, a male masturbator, a dildo, etc. – can add a new dimension to your sex life as a couple. There’s certainly nothing to lose by trying!
4. Explore The Internet (Together)
Many would argue that the Internet is a distraction for sex lives. However, it’s there, it’s not leaving, and its sexual content is limitless – so why not try it? Whether it’s sexual chat rooms, erotic literature online, or something else that excites you, exploring this content as a couple can certainly light a spark. Plus, it can lead to a bit more openness in terms of individual preferences or kinks.
5. Try New Positions to Keep a Man Interested in Bed
This is a common tip, but it can’t be stated often enough: new positions keep sex exciting. Men’s Health has a fun “playbook” offering a number of positions to start with, and the important thing here is to go beyond occasionally trying something new. Go through absolutely every position that you’re okay with as a couple. You’ll find all kinds of new pleasure in the process, and absolutely keep each other interested, both in new favorites and continued experimentation.
For more ideas to spice up a dull routine check out The Language of Desire and reacquaint yourself with your inner sex goddess!