Whether you are married, in a live-in relationship or a committed relationship if an affair strikes you are in for a whole load of angst, hurt and turmoil and a long road to recovery. Affairs happen for many reasons. Some are out of the blue that neither party see coming whilst others are sort out, orchestrated and totally manipulated. What ever the reason, the proactive question here has got to be…
How do you affair proof your relationship?
In all honesty there is no true way to affair proof your relationship no matter what anyone says. People are people and situations arise that effect even those that we may have thought would be party to an affair. Sadly that is life and as humans we sometimes make the wrong decisions. I’m not saying it’s right or wrong, it just is what it is.
However, the good news is that there are things you can put in place to affair proof your relationship to the best of your ability and this works for guys as well as for us girls. After all, we can all be subject to temptation at sometime or another and recognizing that fact and knowing how to deal with it is half the battle over.
Here’s the thing…
What men want more than a pretty face or teeny waist is to be ADMIRED by their partner.
What it means is that as women we usually believe men have an affair with “the secretary” because she’s hot, young or has some other physical attribute that we lack.
The truth is, most men who have affairs are DESPERATELY CRAVING admiration. Since many affairs happen at work or in a sporting fraternity you can see how that admiration or attention element is doing it’s thing.
At home, many men feel (and often are) nagged. At the office, they’re the “hero”. They are the man in charge, the man with great ideas, the man with the charisma with staff – you get the picture. In s sporting situation they might be the star player, they might be the glue that holds the team together or the one with the most sportsmanlike attitude. Easy to admire eh?
If a man doesn’t feel admired at home, he becomes easier prey for any woman who makes him feel respected and admired.
The same can be said for women. At home we may feel like the multi tasking mothering machine and a little taken for granted. At the office we might be revered for our sensational organizational skills, our ability to juggle many projects and our charm when wooing customers. Again, it’s easy to see where things could go here.
When a woman makes her man feel admired, she cloaks him in an affair proof armor because most men would do just about anything to NOT lose her admiration. The same can be said for men with their women. We all crave to be admired for what we do and the part we play though it’s very easy to let the challenges of every day life run right over over this.
With life there are no guarantees and sadly sometimes no matter how hard you try either you or your partner may fall foul to an affair. Finding a happy outcome can be challenging and will require a huge amount of honesty, compassion and understanding to get through it. Help is available in many different forms if saving your marriage or relationship is your priority. Remember if both parties are willing many obstacles can be overcome.