So you want to get your ex back and most likely, you want it now. You have heard it before, but I am going to say it again. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Today, you are feeling great loss and sadness and you want relief. You feel that the only thing that will bring you this relief is to get your ex back and be safe in his arms again. Oh it’s a nice thought, but long term, it won’t work and you may find yourself a few months down the road right back to where you are now.
Firstly, why do you want to get your ex back?
You see right after a break up, emotions are high. If he ended it with you, he had his reasons and they aren’t going to just disappear in a day or so. If you make any moves now, you will just remind him of why he broke up with you to start with. It will reinforce to him that he was correct in his decision to end it. If you want to ever get your ex back, you must give him space, lots of it, to process. Space is only going to help you long term as well. As your own emotions clear, you will be able to see things as they are, not as you wish them to be. You may even decide you don’t want him back. It happens.
Your instinct is to reach out to him. You want answers, I know. I have been on both ends of this. By pushing him for answers or to talk about the demise of your relationship, you are feeding him more negative information and it does not make him feel good. Men stay with women who make them feel good. They don’t stay with women who cause them to feel guilt, intentional or not. By pushing to talk about the relationship, you stir up the bad emotions of your relationship. Why on earth would an ex come back to you when you make him feel these things? Let it ride for now.
That’s why if you ever want to get your ex back, you must give him time to process. If you ever truly loved someone, human nature has a way of remembering the good over the bad. He can’t do that when you are a constant reminder of the bad. Now is the time to fade away. Give him space and go on with your life. I know it’s hard, but think long term satisfaction over instant gratification.
Not everyone gets their ex back. Statistics say it’s more uncommon than common. I think a lot of that is because we push too soon, too fast to get our needs met without allowing time to run it’s course. Many a relationship could be reconciled had one partner just stopped pushing.
There are no guarantees that you can get your ex back, but there is a plan you can go for written her by Bob Grant that will increase your chances. You very well may get your ex back if you can accept it may not be today or even next month. If you can think long term satisfaction over instant gratification and follow this plan, perhaps you will get your ex back.