This post is based on some of the teachings of David Dieda about opening your heart to love again, especially after a break up or tough time. I am one of his biggest fans. It also incorporates my own life experiences and my many aha moments. It comes from my truth of opening your heart to love, as I know it and am learning to live it, one minute at a time.
Opening Your Heart To Love Again
Today you are alive. Your heart is beating. One day though, no matter how many material things you possess or accomplishments you have achieved, your heart will stop, your breathe will cease and you will exist no more. Are you ready and have you given your deepest gifts, the gifts from your heart? Have you lived in your truth?
A well lived life embraces death. A well lived life gives without holding back, receives love without question and does not push or pull away. Life lived for the sake of materialism, status, or selfishness will leave you at the end of your day unfulfilled, lonely and empty. Love fully and die.
Are you ready to begin opening your heart to love again?
All people are equal, each expresses a different degree of presence and radiance depending on their openness at the moment. Sometimes after years of life’s blows, a person can develop habits of closure that are not easy to release. Their guarded heart is a protection against further pain and hinders their would be gifts of love, closing your heart to love again.
If your true gifts have been lost in the struggle with life’s demands, you are in pain. Love not given hurts. Love not offered sears the heart. Love not expressed sucks your strength. When you meet a person who is of greater openness and giving love freely, you closure stands in stark relief. Feeling th choices you have made of security and self guardedness you are very aware of your yearning heart, lost time and ungiven gifts, you can either surrender open and receive the force of superior openness or remain closed.
When you meet a superior man or woman, your only real choices are to open fully and receive their gifts or to crucify them and be relieved of their force. To grow you must learn to absorb their intensity of openness that would otherwise simply make you feel how crippled you are.
To Open Your Heart of Close It
You are either withholding your love in fear or giving your deepest gifts.
Right now and in every now moment you are either closing or opening. You are either waiting for something, more money, more security, more affection or you are living from your deep heart and giving what you most deeply desire to give, without WAITING.
If you are waiting for anything in order to live and love without holding back you are suffering. The way love moves you is your true destiny as long as you don’t add fear to love’s force, your life unfolds unimpeded.
If you add fear to your life as most people do, and wait to fully open, then your heart aches as your life curls into the shape of your chosen consolations and your heart’s pains of closure slowly accumulates to unbearable.
Few men and women live their true destiny. Most follow a path bent by fear. Your true destinly is lived by giving everything and loving open without WAITING.
It is impossible for fear and love to exist together.
Right now you are choosing to open and give fully or you are waiting?
How does your choice feel?
How would you live if you were fearless, if you lived your life as an expression of your deepest heart?
Open Your Heart Through Intimacy
When you think of opening your heart to intimacy, you probably think of two lovers embraced, naked and uninhibited. Intimacy is so much more and can be experienced in every day life with many people if you are open. When you let others in without fear, the intimacy follows. Not much more satisfies the thirst of your soul like the joy of intimacy.
My aha moment happened a few months ago. I had gashed my arm open. I was in a public place. A man came to my rescue that I did not know. He got a napkin and held it on my bleeding arm and led me outside to his truck which was complete with a first aid kit. I did not speak, he spoke very little. He cleaned my wound gently and applied a bandage. Words were not needed. I was in awe of the kindness of this man. He was open. That was intimacy. My heart was opened wide in that moment.
This moment may have gone unnoticed had I not been in a place of pain in my life. When you are in pain, joy has a tendancy to rear it’s beautiful head. Not that it’s not there all along, we just don’t notice. When you are in pain, your soul is seeking healing and subconsciously you draw the joys of life into your heart and the healing begins and the path ahead is seen with clarity.
Since that night, I have found it everywhere but mostly because I made that choice to become aware. Being aware of the presence and the essence of others around me has caused my world to expand. Opportunities to give and receive are in my path daily. Were they there all along? Yes, but I was closed and could not see them.
You have a choice. You can give others the gift of your openness or the clench of your refusal. Which choice will you make?
The Guarded Heart Opening Your Heart to Love
Recently I ran across a post on a women’s forum. Seems a woman had met a open man with a very brave heart. She was falling for him and he for her, they were opening to one another. Well fate steps in and he finds out he will be transferred far away in a year or so. The advice to her was interesting. The majority of replies said guard your heart at all cost. Don’t get anymore involved, cut it now.
One poster had a different outlook it would seem.
Ok, you can look at this in a couple of ways. You know if you stay you risk the chance of falling in love and being hurt in a year. You of course can protect your heart and end it now, seems the logical thing to do right.
Maybe not. There is always the risk of being hurt regardless of circumstance. We have no control over this. Every time you choose love, you also choose to risk pain. The only difference here is you know the outcome. You are blessed with a crystal ball so to speak. I say love him with reckless abandonment. Why would you deprive yourself of this moment in time. So much to learn here. Don’t miss this opportunity, it may not come again.
What is the saying, it’s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. I go with that.
I refuse to run around in life worried about if I am going to be hurt or not, what a miserable life. Oh and all the joys you miss doing this. Not for me. If I knew I had a year of bliss but was going to be very sad at the end, I would still go for it, but that’s me.
Living Your Truth
Knowing the truth is useless, feeling it is profound, living it is life changing.