With the divorce rate statistics and the constant stream of broken relationships we see every day it would be easy to think that finding true love or that special someone is nothing more than a dream we have been conditioned to believe.
Many of us (yes I’ve done it too) jump in too soon instead of pacing the relationship and before we know it we are ensconced in someone else’s life that we no longer admire, are attracted to or maybe even like very much. Look, it’s easy to do. The first throws of a new relationship are heady, thrilling and exciting to say the least and it’s easy to mistake these elements for true love.
Many of us get that déjà vu, it’s meant to be, kind of feeling and either can’t get our stuff into our lovers home quick enough or simply turn the wedding march into an all out sprint well before we are ready.
So, what attracts true love?
To attract true love into your life you need to have some basic beliefs cemented firmly. Everything starts from within ourselves and who we are and how we act. It’s who we are before we meet our true love that matters the most because after all we are what we attract.
1. Learn to live in self love – Our relationships are only as strong as the belief we have about ourselves and about what we deserve. To attract true love we must honestly believe we are worthy of it. We must learn to love ourselves unconditionally before we can expect someone else to do the same. That means loving ourselves warts and all. Accepting ourselves along with our imperfections. No one in the world is perfect nor is ever going to be.
2. Tune into a kind frequency – We can be our own worst critic. Those voices inside our heads that tell us we don’t look good or we’re not smart enough or not popular enough need to be silenced. We need to learn to talk to ourselves as we would talk to a friend or someone we love. This is an extension of self love and accepting and honoring ourselves with kind words and actions also attracts more of the same from outside back to us.
After all we are looking for someone to compliment us not to complete us so it’s important to reflect what we are looking for. Think kind thoughts; say kind, loving words; do thoughtful things and most of all learn to be your own best friend.
3. Have faith that you can find true love – Knowing what you want and believing you can find it is a huge part of the process. Most of us have had relationships in the past that have not worked out for many different reasons. Dissect them and use what you have learned from them to craft what you are looking for in your true love. Without a plan in place you are really wandering around aimlessly hoping he will come along.
Take what you have learned from past experiences and look within yourself. What can you change that may have been a common denominator in the past? Did you commit fully to the belief that true love really exists or was the jury still out on that one? Remember to work on exhibiting the characteristics that you want to attract. Keep the focus positive and true love will come your way.
4. Believe that true love will last – Many of us get into a relationship and from past conditioning simply wait for it to end or worst still orchestrate the end. We have no faith that it can endure, that someone can love us despite ups and downs so we cut and run instead. Every relationship has its highs and its lows. Couples disagree, argue and sometimes say things they later regret.
What’s important is to not think than any little disagreement will be the beginning of the end. Opening the channels of communication and operating from a place a love and compassion instead of a place of fear, ego or anger will guide you through any tricky patches. Stop yourself when you look for the ending and instead focus on your future together.
So, if you are ready to find your true love and are willing to put these philosophies into practice why not go one step further on your journey and really get yourself relationship ready so you too can attract the man of your dreams. Are you ready to take action?