If you are asking the question why men disappear for days, I am hoping you are just dating him and have not yet entered into a full committed relationship with this disappearing man. The fact of the matter is I get this a lot from my readers. They have been on a few dates with a guy and felt a connection and next thing you know, it’s radio silence. No calls, no texts, no smoke signals, not even a courier pigeon. Then out of the blue he resurfaces like nothing has happened. What is going on here.
Here’s why men disappear for days
Well the first thing that is going on here is if this is really bothering you and you are having a hard time thinking of anything else, you are over invested into a man who has yet to really invest into you. A man pursuing a relationship with you doesn’t usually disappear for days. If you are just dating however and it’s casual with no commitment, it’s not that unusual for a man to not make contact for several days at a time. For you to get upset in this situation may not really be warranted. At this point, early in the game, hopefully you still have a life outside of him. If not, you had best get one. This is a sign he is still keeping his options open and I would suggest you do the same.
As far as why men disappear for days and keep doing it the answer is pretty simple. Because they can and because you allow it. You may say you don’t allow it because you tell him how you feel about it or you get angry at him and tell him how it’s unacceptable. The truth of the matter though is if you still continue to see this disappearing man, you are yourself allowing it. He has no need to change if a tongue lashing or a bit of silent treatment is his only consequence. You know the saying, I know you do. Actions speak louder than words. Respect yourself enough to not tolerate bad behavior over and over.
As to why men disappear for days in the first place it could be many a reason. You may not be the only girl he is dating. He may have a very active social life. He may just not be all that interested. One thing is for certain though, disappearing men are bad choices for relationships. They aren’t fully invested. The best advice I can offer you for the disappearing man is to move on and find a man who doesn’t come in and out of your life.
If this is a reoccurring problem in your life, I suggest you take a look at this to help you identify the patterns in your life and better understand the behavior of men. Why He Disappeared!